General Posting Guidelines
  1. Use a descriptive title for your thread
    Be accurate.
  2. Post in the relevant forum
    Moderators will move off-topic threads.
  3. Avoid cross posting
    Defined as posting the same topic in two or more locations.
  4. Be gentle with other community members
    Do not post comments that are derogatory, insulting, inflammatory, baiting, harassing, humiliating, intended to question others’ character or intentions, or are generally mean-spirited. Use of the private messaging (PM) system to insult or harass members is also in violation of our community standards for conduct and should be reported to a moderator.
Content Guidelines
  1. Post only content that is truly safe on the internet

    Although this is a closed forum, there are no requirements to join. Assume that anyone could read what you post at any time.

    Please remember that the Internet is forever: do not post detailed personal information about yourself/significant other(s)/children/family/friends, including medical conditions or psychiatric diagnoses without their express consent. It is likely that the anonymity of a closed forum will not be sufficient to protect their privacy, and what you post here could become visible to others.

    Violating the personal privacy of others is against the Terms and Rules of TheBabywearer.

  2. ALL hate speech is strictly prohibited.
    We will in no way tolerate any language that is hurtful, derogatory, inflammatory, pejorative or otherwise inciting of hatred. Racist, classist, sexist, ableist, homophobic, transphobic, and xenophobic language choices or other hate speech will be required to be edited or removed by a moderator and a warning will be issued. Microaggressions and othering are included in this. Repeated violations will result in a ban.
  3. White supremacy is strictly prohibited in any form
    All forms of support for hatred and white supremacy, including open support for public and/or political figures who, either by words or actions, uphold hatred and white supremacy, will be prohibited. White supremacy will not be given any space at TBW. Any posts, comments, pictures, avatars or signature lines that support hatred or white supremacy will be removed and the content owner warned. Repeated violations will result in a ban.
  4. Be aware of sensitive and controversial topics
    There are many subjects (religion, politics, war, abortion, racism, etc.) that can be very divisive when discussed in a public forum. The moderator team will lock and/or remove any threads or posts which alienate or disrespect the community.
  5. All references to abuse or abusive behavior must be in a labeled Spoiler Warning.

    Any and all content that references or implies abusive behavior, intentional or not, must be behind an appropriately labeled Spoiler Warning, to ensure that it does not traumatize or re-traumatize other users. Please understand that different people have different thresholds for what behavior, especially with respect to appropriate discipline of children, constitutes abuse. For an overview of what is commonly considered abusive behaviors, please see the following links:

    Child Abuse

    Emotional Abuse

    Domestic Violence

    Abuse within Relationships

    Per the Terms and Rules, the decision on allowable content will be made as necessary by the moderation team, administrators and Volunteer Board of TBW, and any such decisions will be final.

  6. Respect copyright
    Do not post something written by someone else without their express permission, including reprinting of articles, song lyrics, emails/private messages written by other people, images, etc. If you do not own rights to the material, provide a link to the piece rather than copying it on the forums. In addition, any unauthorized copying and pasting of TBW content and/or another poster's comments or pictures is in direct violation of our Terms and Rules. The moderator team will impose penalties for reported cases as we deem feasible and appropriate.
  7. Avoid inappropriate language and subject matter
    This includes the use of profanity and the posting of sexually explicit content.
  8. Respect other online communities
    Do not post links to other forums with the express purpose of encouraging members to join those forums to debate a topic. This is disrespectful to other online communities, and can encourage trolling and have negative impact on our community.
  9. Seek permission before surveying for information on the forums
    Please contact an administrator before posting to seek information for any commercial or external use.
  10. Please post in English
    This is an English-language site, please either post only in English or provide a translation if you post in another language.
Editing & Deleting
  1. Editing your posts
    You will be able to edit your posts for a limited period of time. Today, that is 6 months. This could change at any time. If shortened or if this ability is removed, no recourse will be given, and the moderators/administrators will not edit for you. Should you feel that editing of an old post is necessary, please ‘report’ the post and note your reasons. A moderator or administrator will contact you.
  2. Deleting of posts is not permitted
    If you delete posts by editing to remove all of the content on a repeated basis, your account will be banned. Please participate in our community and leave your posts for others to read and learn from later.
  3. Account Closure
    Deleting of all posts upon the closure of your account is not technically feasible and will not be done. Posts can and will be anonymized, and if 'reported' to the administrator/moderators, any personal information will be manually edited out.
  1. Allowed in Signatures
    • up to 255 characters, and five lines of text (including blank lines)
    • commercial or non-commercial URL, with or without slogan
    • links to your feedback at TBW or elsewhere, when appropriate
  2. Not Allowed in Signatures
    • promotions e.g. “sale on this month”
    • image files or banners
    • items FS/FT and links to items in the FSOT/ISO forum(s)
    • links to eBay listings (Note: You may include a link to your eBay store if that is your primary place of business.)
    • content that could be seen as inflammatory to other members
    • content that violates the terms and rules for
    • a link to a business that you do not own
    • Moderators may edit signatures that do not comply with these rules.
  1. Warnings & Moderator Actions
    If a member violates any of these rules, a warning may be given and that member's post(s) and/or thread(s) may be edited or deleted by a member of the moderator team. In most cases, a moderator will contact the poster via PM to let them know that an edit has been made, but in some cases the moderator may instead describe the reason for the edit at the end of the post.
  2. Bans
    Depending on the severity of an infraction, a member may receive a temporary ban (3-, 7-, or 30-days). Repeated infractions will result in longer temporary bans, restricted posting, and/or a permanent ban.
  3. Inappropriate posts
    Inappropriate posts will be removed and the poster may receive a warning, a temporary ban, or a permanent ban. No refunds for paid upgrades will be given due to a banning, regardless of duration.
  4. Final decisions on allowable posts
    The administrators of have the final say regarding all posts. If you have questions regarding acceptable content, please contact